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WANTON WEDNESDAYS: WEEK 3
C U NEXT TUESDAY (or Wednesday, in this case)
You use it every single day. It opens; it closes. You can put things in it or spit them back out. Sometimes it’s loud and sometimes it’s quiet. Sometimes it’s entirely unpredictable and works before you tell it to. One thing your mouth is good for is talk. And in particular, dirty talk.
There are two facets of lewd language I want to touch down on today. The most obvious of the two would be vocal carnal exchanges between lovers, and the less obvious being the so-called coarse language in day-to-day conversation. But let’s talk about them in reverse, okay?
* Before I go any further, keep in mind that any and all words that you may find unsettling in this post are simply for exemplary purposes and are not meant to offend.*
They’re words that come up in passing each and every day, whether from your own mouth or the mouths of those around you. In the office, on the street corner, in the record store and most certainly on the television. We call people dicks, tell others to screw off, some people just plain “suck,” and there others we see walking down the street we deem to be “creamalicious.”
How is it that sexual implications have become so interlaced with the way we speak to people or address them? And keep in mind that the examples above are simply the tip of the…iceberg - but I don’t think I need to shed the spotlight on anything more than just that. Who’s to say what is deemed as apropos and what crosses the line?
As an adolescent, I’d forever be chastized for rolling my eyes, groaning and saying “oh maaaaan, that sucks!” My father told me it wasn’t appropriate and that I wasn’t allowed to say that when I didn’t like something. Little did 13-year-old me know the origins of that lament.
How do you feel about the melding of sex and slang?
Okay, we’re a little warmed up so how about slipping under the sheets with me? In fact, how about talking dirty to me? Metaphorically speaking, of course.
It’s an interesting concept that I find people are very staunchly divided on. Many of us were raised in a time wedged between the so-called “Summer of Love” in 1967 where people came together in the name of love (and lust), and a generation of open-minded people in the 1990s. For most of you and those you know, even saying the s-word was frowned upon because “ladies don’t say those things.” Er, men too I suppose.So how much more difficult is it to tell your partner in passion that what he or she is doing is juuuust right? Excrutiating, I’m sure.
I consider myself lucky in that sex and sexuality have always been something I’ve felt comfortable discussing and talking about, not to mention elaborating on in the adjective sense. Perhaps that’s why I’ve begun this weekly series on all things s-e-x. Quite a few of my friends are just as free in discussing things of a nympho nature. However, just as many tend to shy away from the topic and especially words that even come close to describing anything to do with everyone’s favourite after-hours activity.
Is it hot? Is it not? Is talking dirty something that turns you on or grosses you out? Or further, does it completely wig you out? Have your say in the comments and let’s get this ball rolling.
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Tomorrow is almost here, which means it’s nearly time to return to Vancouver. Times on the Island with my family and Charley always pass by much too quickly. One of the beautiful things about the time here is that I do a whole lot of nothing. So here we are, two days since my last post, and I really don’t have anything exciting to share with you. In fact, last night I was out cold by 9:00 p.m. and didn’t wake up until 8:30 a.m.
I spent the day in town with my mom and visited the Charles Dickens Christmas Craft Faire. Among the items we picked up were loose herbal tea and lavender jelly. Both tasty and at delicious prices. Plus, it’s always a superb idea to support your local economy.
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It’s been raining and grey and dark all day in the Valley. “What’s so great about that”, you ask? Rain in the Valley means snow on the mountain.
Mount Washington’s lift pass kiosk, 6:42 p.m.:
Might I add that I am ridiculously excited for a girls’ day on the Island’s mountain with Becky? Swishing snow, glorious sunshine, beers in the lodge at lunch, a plethora of unbelievably hot boys to oggle and some of the finest that the Island has to offer. It will be grand…oh yes, it will be grand.
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I’ll be formulating this coming Wednesday’s “Wanton Wednesday” post pretty soon and I think I’ve got a rather interesting issue to write about, so stay tuned for the 14th.
Other than that, I’m trying to keep my day-to-day life a busy flurry of work and Christmas preparations. It’s been a tough and trying last couple of months for me. Sometimes it’s easier to keep your head down and your spare time focused.
A girl can’t Rome without Caesar.
A FAIRE TO REMEMBER
As yesterday was my mom’s birthday, I’m heading home to Vancouver Island tomorrow after work so that we can celebrate as a family. As the days get closer to Christmas, the anticipation in the Valley continues to grow and that only gets me even more excited. If you’re also planning to be in the Valley over the next few days, be sure to check out the 13th Annual Charles Dickens Christmas Craft Faire.
Over the last few years, this event has become somewhat of a tradition for my mother and I. For three days, the great room at the Florence Filberg Centre is bustling with homemade ornaments, knit scarves, luxurious candles, locally-made jewelry, woodworking and so much more. The theme this year is “Nature At Its Best.”
What: The 13th Annual Charles Dickens Christmas Craft Faire
When: November 9 from 3-9p.m., November 10 from 10am-5pm, November 11 from 10am-4pm
Where: Florence Filberg Centre, 411 Anderton Avenue, Courtenay, British Columbia
Who: If you’re there on Friday evening, the Co-Val Choristers will be performing carols at 7p.m. in anticipation of their “A Christmas Peace” performance. If you’re hungry, stop in at the downstairs concession being held by the Evergreen Seniors.
How Much: Your $2 admission gets you a free ticket in the raffle for prizes from local businesses; children are free.
For more information, call (250) 339-9891 or e-mail dickens.faire@gmail.com
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On a side note, I’m very excited to say that part of the piece I wrote with regards to my interview with Taylor Hanson has been posted on Hanson’s official website with a link to the interview on the LAist. Check it out here if you’re interested.
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Thanks for all the great responses to Wanton Wednesdays: Week 2 yesterday. Please feel free to e-mail me with any topic ideas you may have for upcoming weeks.
Here’s a question for today: What is it that is unconventionally attractive to you on someone of the opposite sex (or in some cases, the same sex)?
For me, I love a little bit of a tummy on a guy. In my opinion, rock-hard abs are overrated. A little tummy fits perfectly into the small of my back when spooning, enhancing that safe and secure feeling. It’s positively sublime.
WANTON WEDNESDAYS: WEEK 2
I’M JUST A GIRL IN A SEXUALLY SATURATED WORLD
There’s a scene in the movie Flashdance in which Jennifer Beals’ character reaches up and releases a glittery splash of water all over herself during her moonlighting dance routine. As a young girl, I would watch this scene over and over again, enamoured by how completely fabulous this made her seem. Once I grew tired of the same old routine, my next fascination was with Francis “Baby” Houseman in Dirty Dancing. Her story of being swept off her feet in every sense made my heart melt every single time I watched Johnny tell Mr. Houseman that “nobody puts Baby in the corner.”
I bet you swooned just a little bit even just reading that. I did.
As a young girl, I lived in an idyllic bubble where women didn’t have to have fantastic breasts and flawless skin to be beautiful. I was ignorant to what the world thought was true beauty and only saw what I thought was beautiful. I was unaware of the reality and power of sex and sexuality. Ignorance is bliss.
Today we live in a sexually-saturated world where children know much, much more than I ever did at such a young age. To be quite honest, I don’t think I really even knew what oral sex was until my senior year in high school. I don’t think I’d be far off to presume that that’s no longer the case. And to top that off, ridiculously unrealistic “ideals” of beauty are pressed on such impressionable minds, so much so that it makes me wonder how the hell today’s generation are going to turn out once they reach adulthood.
Little girls and boys grow up to become men and women, and that means we all of a sudden become secure in our sexuality, right? I would say that’s mostly wrong.
I once heard a line in a movie that said “the bad stuff is easier to believe.” I think there’s a lot of truth to that for most of us because we’ve been conditioned not only that it’s egotistical to think highly of ourselves, but that we must be constantly measuring ourselves up against others that are presented as “prettier or perkier or more muscular.” Men are not immune. Disillusions about attractiveness and sexuality create a whole landslide of negative effects for both sexes.
I know from personal experience that prescribing to these ideals can cause a lot of insecurity, self-doubt, questioning and the desperate need to be validated as beautiful by others. “It’s not enough for me to think that I’m gorgeous – you have to too!” And if you didn’t think I was gorgeous, then I wasn’t. It was as simple as that. Further, how many men and women go on to have reckless sexual experiences in an attempt at self-validation? These are very dangerous and unhealthy behaviours, but is reaching this point no longer avoidable?
Sadly, I think that levels of sexual saturation in TV, radio, music, magazines and even expectations of others are only going to continue to increase. So what does this mean for your future brood and their healthy view of sexuality? What are you going to tell your daughter to help her understand that she’s ridiculously beautiful even if she doesn’t have curves like Gisele Bundchen? How are you going to help your son realize that being a real man is not about looking like David Beckham?
Parenting just got a whole lot tougher.
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WANTON WEDNESDAYS: WEEK 1
Me: “I am totally drawing a blank - I don’t know what to blog about.“
Friend: “Write about sex, duh.“
Me: “I considered that. I just need to narrow the scope.“
Friend: “Talk about lesbian tendencies.“
Me: “Ugh. I have none.“
Friend: “Perfect!“
But it’s an excellent topic of choice. However, that conversation was a few hours ago and I have yet to narrow my scope, so I’m not going to. Sex is a topic I’ve always been comfortable with and have actually enjoyed discussing. Sexual politics and human sexuality are driving forces behind so much of everything in our lives yet it’s something that so many people shy away from opening their mouths about (pun intended).
That being said, I’ve got a thought. Why not a whole series on coitus and consumation and the many facets of fornication? Let’s call it “Wanton Wednesdays,” shall we? There’s no time like the present to begin, so hang on to your knickers because here we go…
Week 1: TALK AIN’T CHEAP, HONEY
Has this post already made you uncomfortable? I’m willing to bet that at least 50% of you are vexed by the picture I’ve posted below simply because of the connotations it could make. Our attitude towards sex and sexuality is conditioned from a time that goes back further than each of us can recall in our own lives. Sometimes it’s based in a strict upbringing or the result of religious influence and for some, the idea of sexuality is one that doesn’t cause a single eyelash to bat. I consider myself lucky in that sex was never a taboo topic in my parents’ household, all the while I most certainly had friends who’d gasp in a mix of shock and horror at the very mention of that three-letter word.
Why is it that you’re squirming in your seat? In terms of sexuality, I think that open discussion and education are your two wisest weapons. Opening up your mind to something that is a very tangible reality of life and being smart about it really should not be overlooked. And don’t mistake me here…I am not simply talking about intercourse; I’m referring to, but not limited to, our attitudes, views on sex, views of ourselves, our individual sexuality (because I hate to break it to you, but yup, you’re a sexual being), sex in the media, our bodies, our perceptions and our ideals. Truth be told, I could probably blog about a different aspect of sex every single Wednesday for the rest of my blogging “career” and never run out of things to talk about.
That being said, this is what Week 1 is all about. From here, I open it all up to you. If you’re uncomfortable with the topic, be frank and say so. If you’re open to discussion, share away. Feel free to comment on topics you’d like to see covered and I’ll open up the floor over the next few weeks, depending on the response to this. I think that if everyone has a little bit more understanding and a little bit more knowledge with which to equip themselves, each of us will be that much stronger. It’s essential to building a healthy view of yourself as a person, as a sexual person and as someone with a strong self-image. Sex is not a negative concept!
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