Posted on July 22, 2016
20 Questions with Raymi the Minx
20 Questions with Raymi the Minx
Raymi and I met years ago. Looking back on the photos, we were babies back then. She’s a girl who is full of surprises. Raymi has been blogging for over 16 years, having established herself as one of Canada’s foremost original bloggers. Her online persona is outspoken, energetic, and often hilarious. In real life I found her to be entirely down-to-earth, sweet (sorry, Raymi, but it’s true), and a true creative spirit. “Relatable” also comes to mind. Raymi has helped pioneer the way for today’s Canadian bloggers, chronicling nearly every detail of her fast-paced life in Toronto. Between running two blogs, freelancing, PR work, burlesque dancing, personal asst job, consulting, representing a ton of national brands, and eating amazing food you should be jealous of, it’s kind of a wonder that she found the time to honestly answer 20 Questions for you today.
1. What are you really excited about these days?
THE BEACH. My new boyfriend (long time friend, new romance, new job, which lead to the beaches badda boom badda bing) plus summer in general.
2. What was the last picture you took on your phone?
I tweeted it to you over a week ago when I first cracked open these questions so I’m going to wait until I actually send this back to you before looking at my phone gallery. After 16 years of blogging I am kind of burnt out from all things computers, typing, thinking, expressing. It sucks that my passion is in purgatory at the mo’ thanks to things like real life and social media, a deteriorating attention span plus choosing to live in the moment and not obsessively document and write every single thing that happens to me and thought in head. I am always like, “I will get to it” about things because I genuinely want to do them but, wanting and doing are two different things lol.
3. Making yourself accessible through social media and blogging opens the door to admiration but also criticism. How do you handle criticism?
By giggling at the stupid shit they do to provoke me. Discussing the more insane things with friends and also letting it slide off my back into the garbage where it belongs. I have been called every name in the book and I still carry on. Haters are my motivators as they say. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I would totally curb-stomp a few if given the chance and feel no remorse at all about it but yeah, I do this healthy thing called “living my own life” and focusing on myself instead of what a jealous brat attempts to project onto me. I am wholly set in my ways so I don’t understand why after all this time I still piss people off. I guess I am very good at pissing people off and saying the right thing to get under their thin-ass skin. You can demonize me all you want but that won’t change the charming, delightful nutter that my real life posse admires (tolerates).
4. What is your bottom line, number one, golden rule when it comes to blogging?
You stressed me out by saying bottom line! The golden rule for blogging I’d say is when the moment strikes you to do it, just bloody go for it because writer’s block is the worst and you will thank yourself for it later. That being said, I have quite a few unfinished documents kicking about that upon opening is like how drunk was I when I said this…what was the impetus…where was I going there? I am a strong opener with everything I touch I just need a capable genius to step in and finish off for me. When you’re blogging try to be cognizant of the thoughts flowing out of you. Not all of them are gems. If one enjoys blogging and has a knack for it, it’ll show. If it’s just boilerplate crapola just to substantiate a link for a brand, that will show too. We aren’t perfect and society lets us know that all the time.
5. Everyone has a spirit animal. What’s yours and why?
Jungle cat predator. An alpha but also a dipshit cuddlemuffin if it saw some yarn. I mean, I’m a minx but they aren’t even real. A mink is like a ferret, basically a rodent and I ain’t no rodent. I am part monkey and part cat but definitely a wild animal. “MINX: An alluring, cunning, or boldly flirtatious girl or young woman. Has unusual seductive powers such that she could commit acts that would otherwise be considered inappropriate, while still maintaining an air of class or poise.” Sounds like me, yep.
6. The Breakfast Club featured a rebel, a princess, a brainiac, an outcast, and a jock. Who were you in high school?
The outcast on purpose. I towed the line. I did my own thing much to the chagrin of my folks. If I could go back I wouldn’t have cut all my long blond hair off when I went to England for school. That kind of killed the rest of my sex appeal in my opinion and made me like, just like everybody else and “ew” to that. Before that I stood with the popular crowd. I was still known albeit a rebel and was also voted most humourous person at prom. I don’t know if you’ve noticed but there is an element of humour laced in everything I ever say ever. Anyway, my school wasn’t cutthroat like that. It was pretty mellow and everyone was friends it seemed. You could travel from group to group if you weren’t a total nerd. Hey man I don’t like boxes ha ha!
7. If I gave you $50,000 to start a business, what would you start?
Well after blowing $5K on an inspiration trip and getting some much-needed book writing accomplished, I’d perhaps invest in a few business ideas colleagues of mine have which I obviously cannot divulge to you here then I’d buy some stocks to mess around with. I’d hire people to help me with raymitheminx and raymitoronto and expand all the areas I have always dreamed to. You really can’t do it alone. I’d set up a studio and make a go at youtube vlogging and editing, put together a webseries and buy a really good light. I bet a smart business guy is shaking his head right now thinking “what a waste.” I know that I am still a viable commodity so why abandon ship yet?
8. What’s your all-time favourite jam from the ‘80s or ‘90s?
This is the first one to come to mind [“Smalltown Boy” by Bronski Beat]. Also this and this [“Sweet Dreams” by Eurythmics and “Down Under” by Men at Work]. Don’t get me started on ’90s… too many! Too many! This question is too mean.
9. Blogging can ebb and flow for a lot of people. Where do you see your blog in 2021?
Oh my God no idea. In five years I will be 38 and pretty upset if I am in the poorhouse, STILL haven’t made it, etc., etc. I hope raymitheminx.com in five years will be a tribute to the biography of my life. The book that I have been struggling to write my entire life. It’s not that I want a biography, I just want to write an I want to delight people with my style how I used to be able to like, endearing things about walks in the park and rocks that look like little friends in their own world down there where it is safe from the toxicity of people like us. I am really into imagination and have always brought that element into my blogging and storytelling so in 2021 I will be like JK Rowling but with more tattoos.
10. If I was a highly-skilled bartender, what drink would you ask me to make for you right now?
An Old Fashioned and don’t screw it up! It’s all about the orange zest there babe, and the cherries.
11. It’s now 2:00 a.m. and I’ve served you half a dozen of those. Where are you going for your greasy food fix?
Ahaha you’re adorable as if I’m eating. Well, the old me would call a special guy for a special delivery but the new me just crushes a panzerotti, wings or makes something ghetto gourmet from the fridge super loud so everyone can enjoy.
12. In Toronto, what’s the one restaurant that no one has heard of but everyone should eat at?
Han Moto is one great side-street Asian joint that is so fantastic it doesn’t even have a sign, but on the inside it’s a beautifully-hidden world of epic fusion à la carte delights.
13. What’s the biggest misconception people have about you in real life?
When people meet me in real life the misconception is that my candor or charming, manic ways don’t translate into the written word or angry tweets the same. In the past its been said that I am less angry in real life than online (I disagree though because I am way angrier irl tbh) and that I’m not as scary as they thought. Which is funny because the older I get the angrier I am, but I am better at channeling it into humour. Some women like to tell me their initial opinion of me like, “they hated me” which speaks to their insecurities in my opinion. I have never felt the need to say, “I hated you” to anyone I think it’s a given.
We hate everybody until they open their mouths and convince us otherwise. Another time two older bitches assumed I was an airhead and by the end of the night I had them almost dying in can’t-breathe laughter and they apologized for ever thinking I could be dumb. I don’t care as much what people think about me anymore as long as young people think I am cool and one of them that is all that matters cowabunga
14. If you could star as any character in the remake of any movie, which famous role would you reprise?
Well, it has to be a lead role. The first thought that comes to mind is anything that is Jennifer Lawerence but that’s too soon. It would be amazing to play Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz. The movie Factory Girl, the chick that played Edie Sedgwick. Or Gwyneth Paltrow in The Talented Mr. Ripley. I always wanted to be Jack Skellington in a play if The Nightmare Before Christmas ever turns into a production such as that I am SO first in line I know every lyric to every song in that movie because I am cool like that.
15. If you could learn a new skill, language, or hobby, what would it be?
To drive. And to be able to do graphic design plus video editing. I would also like to learn an instrument. All of them. Keyboard, drums, bass. I also want to know how to speak French more fluently so I could be a stewardess if I wanted but I would also be an Italian stewardess (I have no idea why I wrote that but I am leaving it). Hobbies…hmm….birdfeeder… making? I’d like my hobby to be tree planting with David Suzuki so please pass that along too. I want to teach water aerobics on cruise ships in my spare time. I wish I was part of a script writing club and a writer for SNL.
16. Who are you most proud of?
My niece Hailey she received a scholarship to University! She will be 18 in September but she is also a little shit like me… so I have my eye on her.
17. Who is (or was) the single most influential person in your life?
There are so many I just can’t. People that I collaborate with, correspond with and all of the blog community that inspired me to be better. I know I sound narcissistic but it has helped me to create my blog into a work of art.
Douglas Coupland’s writing talked about real-life things and made me excited in becoming a writer when I was in high school. I kind of stopped having heroes. But pop culture – even though it is disgusting and bad for you – for example, celebrity obsession and all that shit inspired me like f—. Because that is what people are into, so if I can be like that and exaggerate it a little why not.
My friend Leslie. My friend Jamie in New York City. There is a mix of people in my life and people I have never met. Kurt Cobain was also a hero of mine too and John Lennon. I feel like a dick for not mentioning my parents. They totally influenced me and I act like I created myself. I love them both because I have the best parts of both of them combined together to make this fiasco of a person you are interviewing today so you gotta give credit where it’s due.
18. I’m throwing a dinner party next weekend. You’re invited and can bring three others with you (dead or alive). Who should I set the table for?
Julian Bachlow, John Lennon and Justin Bieber. The three J’s. Julian, John and Justin. Bieber just because I want to see what he does and he probably has good drugs.
19. What’s the one question you wish someone would ask you?
Do you want to live in my amazing house for free for a year and water my plants?
20. So how are you doing – really?
Stressed constantly but going with the flow. A friend pointed out that she might be addicted to stress and since then I have adopted that mindset to help cope with the constant moving parts of my life. I got my first credit cards in the mail weeks ago but haven’t cracked them open yet because I am an adult baby who shies from responsibilities and has always done things their own frustrating way. I am starting a new gig soon that gives me a bit of anxiety. I have been hired but I am always like, still good, still good? It’s hard for me to relax I’m always like, the glass is half empty, a realist. The question is, Keira, how are YOU?
Ttyl xoxo your pal raymbo
All photos are provided courtesy of Raymi the Minx.