Wednesday, August 13, 2008

THE ANSWER’S IN A SATELLITE

Perhaps I’m an anomaly, but I am one of the few who actually embrace getting older. In fact, 30 doesn’t scare me; I look forward to it. You may find this strange of me, but it is, in fact, the truth. My reasoning behind this is simple.

Something I have come to notice about myself in the last year or two is that, as I have grown older, I have grown wiser. That is not, however, to say that I’ve reached any sort of particular milestone, but I firmly believe that worldly wisdom is an important objective to aim for.

What is becoming abundantly clear to me is the reality of human nature. There is beauty there, and there is also ugliness. Sometimes neither is avoidable, and so a perspective grounded in reality is crucial to emotional survival.

In my humble opinion, one of the most unsightly sides to human nature is the way in which people treat each other. Let me preface this by saying that I in no way purport to exclude myself. Mud slinging, talking smack and insults seem, unfortunately, to be a part of almost anyone’s past. The trials and tribulations of adolescence and high school practically dictate the necessity of these tools. It’s something we all learn from a very early age.

Whether it’s to feel as though one is accepted or as a defence mechanism, I believe it all comes down to the self-esteem factor. The beauty in aging, growing older, experiencing life and gaining wisdom should theoretically have a direct impact in this arena.

With age can come cynicism; with experience can come hard lessons in reality. There will always be someone who has what we want, there are people who live on sidewalks, children who go hungry, politicians that lie, family and friends who let us down. What is important to realize is the simple fact that no one is perfect. And with that insight, hopefully we are able to rise above what is ultimately minute, what causes us insecurity and allows us to live lives that are fruitful rather than rotten.

While I could find some comfort in sitting here, lamenting over what tries to tear me down or make me feel less about myself than I should or am entitled to is a wasted effort. I know what is solid and real in my life. I know who Keira-Anne really is (and she’s turning out to be a pretty terrific woman, if I do say so myself), I know why my family is so invaluable, I have unyielding trust in the precious few friendships in my life and for the first time ever, feel as though I have the ability to rise above what is fleeting.

6 Comments
Sue Shee

You certainly are pretty terrific! Perfectly imperfect!

Kat

You have grown into a very special woman and I am proud of you! xo

Jen

I really think that you nailed it with this line here: “I know what is solid and real in my life.”
Knowing this, I believe, is a real gift in a world where so many people are unsure of themselves or what is true; as you said, insecurity can often lead to rotten things.

You absolutely are a terrific woman and a totally amazing friend. xo

Dan

You know, when you started writing (at least) a few months ago about noticing changes in yourself and finding yourself, there was of course skepticism and doubt about where your blog would go (as if that’s something any of us have the right to judge anyway). There was also great anticipation and curiosity though. So I just want to say that you’ve had some very excellent entries since and said some very good and wise things, as if you’ve almost re-found your voice, and I appreciate having been able to learn from it. Some of us are glad you’re getting older and wiser as well. Keep it up :)

Ian (Flickr's Canuck Gtrplyr)

Your attitude rocks. This quote:

“I am one of the few who actually embrace getting older. In fact, 30 doesn’t scare me; I look forward to it.”

…is exactly the reason I love to photograph people like you. It’s a confidence, an inner strength, that just shines through.

bicyclemark

I seriously doubt I’m getting cynical with age. Even if I were, what does it matter.

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