“IF YOU WANT SOMETHING IN LIFE…
…REACH OUT AND GRAB IT”
That saying has always left me with a sour taste in my mouth. It’s something we’ve all either heard or spouted at one time or another in our lives, but I don’t think it could be more impossible. Forgive my cynicism; allow me to explain.
While I believe a great deal of what we experience is well within our realm of choice and is most definitely something we are responsible for, many occurrences are entirely in the control of fate. It is out of our hands and something we have zero jurisdiction over.
Whether that’s something good or something bad is open to interpretation.
Photo: Mike Pedroncelli on Flickr
Just last week, I shared with you, my readers, my cautious excitement at the wonder I felt with the beginning of spring and something great I felt I was on the verge of. What thrilled me even more was the idea that it was beyond my control and completely a surprise. In a matter of seconds, that revelation came crashing down and left me feeling more floored than I imagined. Since then, I’ve felt discombobulated in a way I haven’t known in a long time; disconnected from myself and even from what feels like “home” to me.
So if I can’t actually choose the changes I want to see in my life, and fate had other plans, what is left for me? Round one knock-out.
What’s interesting isn’t that I’m feeling this way, but that I am not experiencing any anxiety over it. It’s highly unusual for anyone who’s feeling defeat. Most of you can probably relate on one level or another.
A change in my life is required. I need a new experience, a new focus. My gear stick has been stuck in neutral for, quite literally, years. Similar experiences, similar situations, similar choices I’ve made and all the same outcomes as before. Nothing changes and everything stays the same.
A holiday would be nice, but a bandaid only covers - it doesn’t heal. It would be easy for any of you to tell me that if I want something, I need to reach out and grab it. What anyone who has ever said that has failed to mention is the how. Ideals are only simply that: ideals.
|
7 Comments
|
“What anyone who has ever said that has failed to mention is how”.
I’m working on it. The book “A New Earth” has helped me a lot. I think it would be a great read for you right now. Cheers.
Laurie, you’re not the first person to mention that book to me so maybe it’s worth checking out. Thanks for the input
your 20’s are a time for self-discovery, mistakes and risks, questions, searching for love - finding it and loosing it - and also feeling a bit unsure of where you are going
doesn’t matter what pithy comments or pieces of advise people give you; life will happen as it does based on your decisions and reactions to them
fate can deal good and bad unfortunately, but one thing i learned is that trying to be someone you are not, trying to have reactions that aren’t yours, fit people to you that are alot of work, will make you unhappy
start from yourself and work outward, takes time to learn you will end up doing that anyway…
Drop me a line after you read it; would love to discuss it with you. It has been life changing for me - first time I can say that about a book.
“A New Earth” had a huge impact on me as well. You definitely should read it!
A smart friend of mine once said that the best way to succeed at a business it to take a bunch of people who are passionate about something and put them together in a company. I’ve sort of tried to adopt that same philosophy in my life, that is I’ve tried to surround myself with good, happy people who enjoy life and don’t take the little things for granted.
And while you it’s true, you can’t control the weather all the time, you can control whether or not your life is headed towards Alaska or California. And there’s nothing wrong with a bandaid from time to time
wow, what a great blog. I love it…I believe that some of us have it worse than others. But if it’s your worst…then your pain is comprable. I also, was just referred to the book ‘ the new earth’ and I plan to start it today. I am in need of learning myself from the inside out to create this change I crave.
I hope you don’t mind if I blogroll you?