WANTON WEDNESDAYS: WEEK 6
TO GROOM OR NOT TO GROOM?
That really is an interesting question.
When I was 18-years-old, I dated a young man who you could say paid careful attention to the small details - at least when it came to himself and his appearance. It wasn’t until after we stopped dating that I learned of the somewhat hideous details of his “beauty routine.” This included the fact that he filed and painted his nails with clear polish to keep them looking refined.
A few years later, I dated another compulsive groomer. However, this time around it was somewhat of a Catch-22. You see, from his father he inherited a modest amount of chest, upper back and upper arm hair. I was glad to see that he waxed to remove the back and appendage fur, but doing so in turn left a bumpy, red rash for a few days afterwards. Neither was favourable to me.
Photo courtesy of Buddy Stone on Flickr
It’s 2007 and the “beauty” world now caters to men in nearly every single facet of sprucing things up, physically speaking. There’s the sports pedicure, the aforementioned waxing, scents designed to keep women pawing all over you, almost as many hair products as women need and use as well as actual spas created solely for the everyday chap.
I’ve long been called a blatant liar in sharing my grooming preferences when it comes to the opposite sex. I love men that are men…ones that smell natural instead of saturated in cologne. Ones that aren’t afraid of a little chest hair instead of ripping it off with hot strips of wax (I said chest hair, not unibrows). Pretty boys are not for me, nor have they ever been.
And you know what else? I actually enjoy a little bit of a tummy on my men (but you already knew that, didn’t you?)
There is, however, one line that cannot be crossed; one area that simply cannot be neglected. All bets are off when headed south. Trimming is absolutely, posivitely and completely essential. Note that I said trimming, not shaving off completely. No one wants to see two bare Easter eggs down there either.
Question No. 1: How do you like your men groomed? Or alternatively, if you’re a man, how far is too far in terms of taking care of your appearance?
Women, you may not be excused from today’s lesson.
Can I be frank while still being Keira-Anne? Of course I can.
I am a hair-o-phobe. I have a huge aversion to female body hair, particularly my own. I even go so far as using depilatory cream on the peach fuzz on my arms. My legs are shaved on a daily basis and let’s face it…hardwood floors are just so much easier to maintain than carpet. (Isn’t it written somewhere that “A Cosmo girl is always ready?”) Enough said.
Photo courtesy of DimsumDarren on Flickr
However, don’t get me wrong. I completely stand by the idea of each to their own. I’d never shun a woman and look at her in disgust for letting the Amazon jungle grow wild - it’s just most certainly not for me.
Question No. 2: How do you like your women groomed? Or alternatively, if you’re a woman, how far is too far in terms of taking care of your appearance?
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Question No. 1: How do you like your men groomed? Or alternatively, if you’re a man, how far is too far in terms of taking care of your appearance?
As long as he’s healthy and has a healthy appearance, I don’t mind most things ie. hairy chest or stubbly face. Maintenance is KEY, manscaping is just a plus.
But I mean, there’s also no need for a unibrow, eh Bert?
Keira, I agree with you completely across the board on this one. No judgement for those who don’t do as I do, but I am also a little obsessive about my own personal grooming (I adopt the ”A cosmo girl is always ready” way of thinking as well)…No body hair on myself is a must. For men, I also like manly men and while trimming is definitely important, I’m no fan of metro men who get manis and pedis, douse their bodies in cologne or wax all of their body hair off. A man should look like a man.
Frankly, I am put off and often intimidated by men who have a more intensive grooming routing than I do! Yeah, them metrosexual guys. Nice to look at, but not really my type. Of course, guys with a bit too much uhm, chest and back hair? O.o
Otherwise, I do agree with Rebecca’s comment.
Give me good conversation and laughs and the finer details of grooming is way down on the list of concerns for me. No mustaches on the ladies please but “south” is totally up to her. Of course there are benefits to hard wood floors but I like the look and feel of a nice carpet too.
1.Let me put it this way- I like a man very well groomed (and yes trimming down south is absolutely neccesary) ….But that same man better not be afraid to get a lil’ greasy while he’s changing the oil in the car..No unibrow allowed, but the body hair can stay if that’s the way he likes it. (I’m just saying that because my husband doesn’t actually have much in the way of body hair) The spa? If he wants to go, he can go! I know I’ll never complain when his hands and feet are squeaky clean and properly moisturized!
2.How far is too far in terms of taking care of my own appearance?
Luckily, I’m an esthetician so I can do my own maintenance on my own schedule. Feet are almost always done, body hair is waxed off routinely, lashes & brows are tinted as required….you get the idea.
Where do I draw my line?? Ummm…..Botox, or any other injectable for that matter.
I’m with you all the way Keira…all the way!!!
I like men reasonably maintained. No jungle crotch. I don’t care if it’s shaved or trimmed, I just like the area maintained. The rest I’m pretty easy about. Chest hair is fine, although lots of back hair is gross. I like the face to be shaved, but if it doesn’t get done for awhile, it doesn’t get done. Not a big deal.
As for myself, I don’t shave everyday. My skin is far too sensitive to be able to shave daily, not to mention that I simply don’t have the time. In my mind, I’m ready whether I have shaved that day or not. My boyfriend doesn’t really care much either. Of course, this is not to say that I still don’t shave on a regular basis. I don’t particularly like being hairy lol.
Honestly I never give a second thought to body hair on a man, it doesn’t bother me at all. But, the more attention they pay to their appearence ‘down there’, the more attention I am going to pay ‘down there’.
annie lennox said it best
“baby…don’t you shave your legs, don’t you double comb your hair; don’t power puff, just leave it rough, i like your fingers there”
i like men with big thick hands and a deep voice — the rest is all dressing
hahahahaha
I like men.
the end.
With all the girls on the body hair issue…body hair for girls = icky…lol
As far as the guys….
Pretty boys, metrosexuals, whatever you want to call them….no thank you, I’ll pass…
I only like MEN!!! The ones that aren’t drenched in cologne and that aren’t afraid to get their hands dirty. Lower maintenance is obviously a must, other that that not an issue. And it has to be said, for me, a guy with 2 or 3 days worth of stubble (face only girls.lol)….yummy…right behind Keira with the “bit of a tummy” thing too….;)
Agreed.
Men with hairy legs, vainy arms, and alittle unshaven turn me on.
Oh, and a tummy to rub is always a plus.
I’m almost scared to comment here. I’m a guy who doesn’t like body hair but I just can’t wax it. I’m lucky that I’m not that hairy. I like being clean shaved all the time if I can as I think its neater. As for down south, I try trimming it as often as I can but I hate Manland to be hairy. After reading this, I waited a day or two, then I bought a single blade razor and went to work. Now it feels so much cleaner and fresh. Stubble down there is an issue but it’s worth it. I feel like a new man and want a new woman.
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