Unify
Recently I blogged about a new term that’s been coined in reference to people who suffer from such a deep fear of abandonment that the ramifications of the fear affects almost every aspect of their lives. This term is known as “abandoholism.” Those who suffer from it are known as “abandoholics.”
In the past few months, I have come to understand what this means to me and how I see it rear its ugly head in my own life. The beauty of it all is that through counselling and literature, I have come to a place where I see it as somewhat of a blessing. I am grateful that I’ve come to recognize the destructive patterns in my own life, and what they are rooted in.
Another outlet through which I am finding understanding and healing is in being extremely open with my family and also my close friends about my current struggles. It isn’t always a pretty picture that I paint, but it’s real and it’s honest. The battle is day-to-day, and sometimes even hour-to-hour. But as of late, I have been happier than I have ever remembered feeling.
Through a blog tracker, I have been able to see where most of my readers are from, and how it is many of them find my site. What has surprised me is the volume of Google searches for the term “abandoholism” and how many of those searches have led people to keira-anne.com. I write this to those of you that have found yourself on my site as the result of these searches. There’s power in numbers and, unfortunately, there aren’t many support groups for people who suffer from abandolism. If you feel so inclined, I encourage you to e-mail me your stories - sometimes it helps to get them “off your chest,” so to speak. Sometimes sharing them with many others, such as if you’d like me to post your story, can bring in a lot of support you may not know is out there. Please feel free to get in touch.
You can e-mail me at: keiraannemellis at gmail dot com